From the moment we wake up, to the moment we close our eyes, and any moment in between, we are working. But yet, people think being a stay-at-home mom is an easy job, and IT’S NOT.
We are expected to keep the house spotless, make three home-cooked meals a day, only provide healthy snacks, AND spend time with our children, love our spouses, oh, and not to mention, keep our sanity.
So as a once stay-at-home mom to a stay-at-home mom who also watched other kids, to a working mom, back to a stay-at-home mom, here are my tips to make doing the hardest job on the planet a little easier.
1. Make a schedule
I can’t stress this enough.
Making a schedule for you and your kids is crucial for getting things done during the day.
Before I had a schedule, I would just sit around not being sure what to do. Most of the time I would sit and just let them play around me and then be overwhelmed by the mess they would make.
Since then, I’ve implemented a schedule that had us reading books, having a craft time, getting outside, giving them lots of independent free time (this is where you really get things done), eating times, and of course the glorious, nap time.
It just helps you be more organized and gives them a sense of direction, and also something to look forward to every day.
2. Give them chores.
If they can walk, they can do chores.
You may have to get down with them to demonstrate how to put toys away, but trust that they will learn. Teaching age appropriate chores can help you feel less stressed out when it comes to keeping things clean.
So play some fun music and set a goal to get certain tasks done before a couple songs end, kids love a good challenge.
If you keep finding small toys that just get thrown on the floor and not actually played with, just throw them away or donate. Objects that don’t serve a purpose to you, just throw away or donate.
The fewer things you have, the less mess you have to clean up, it’s pretty simple.
Also, kids are more apt to want to play and then put away their toys when there is less clutter.
4. Get ready in the morning.
Do you feel more productive when you stay in your pajamas all day or when you actually get ready? Take time for yourself to get up, shower, get ready and feel like an actual person rather than a “mombie.” Trust me.
5. Get out of the house.
Don’t stay cooped up in your house all day. Get out. Fresh air is so good for our souls. If your kids (or you) are acting crazy or in a bad mood, I can almost guarantee that if you brought them outside their moods will lift.
If possible, I recommend getting outside right in the morning. The mornings my kids decide to wake up at an ungodly hour, I like to use those days as an early morning walk day. It’s bound to wake you up and help get you energized for the day.
6. Get alone time.
You need your sanity. Being able to get out of the house ALONE can really help you feel human again.
Getting out helps me recuperate myself, destress, and breath, and I always come back ready to be supermom! Sometimes we just need a break from our kids and that is OKAY.
Self care is so important. We can’t properly take care of our children if we can’t take care of ourselves.
7. Don’t worry about it.
Don’t worry about the dishes in the sink
Don’t worry about the mess.
All of that can wait. What can’t wait, is your children growing up. They need you now. Don’t miss an opportunity to sit down with them and hold them just because there are a few toys on the ground. Don’t worry about being perfect because in their eyes, you are the most perfect being.
This is a crazy journey we are going through, but it is a beautiful one. You are doing the toughest job out there and you are slaying it. Remember, you are not alone and it won’t be hard forever. You got this mama!